Attitude Adjustment

“Oh no,” said the ED.  “We can’t ask the committee members to donate—they are already giving of their time.”

I hear that kind of comment a lot and, frankly, it concerns me.

Who would be more willing to support your organization than the people who are already involved with you?  Who better knows the importance of the work you do?

Asking—even expecting—someone to support your nonprofit organization is not a bad thing.  You are not “hitting on” or “begging” someone to do something shameful or evil.  You are, rather giving that person an opportunity to be (more) involved with something important.  You are asking them to take ownership in the work that you do.  You are, in short, providing something that will make them proud and help them to achieve something that matters to them.  This is the true meaning of “donor-centered fundraising.”

Deciding you won’t ask—because “we already ask so much of them” or, even worse “they don’t have the money to support us”—is, frankly, insulting.  If someone in fact does not have the wherewithal, or feels that they are already giving (in any way) to their max, they will tell you.  And mostly they won’t be insulted you asked.  In fact, most people will be flattered—especially if you have really thought about what you are asking for and connected the dots between the needs of the organization and the hopes and dreams of your donor.

So many of my clients tell me that their clients could never make a charitable gift—they are too financially stretched.  Yet those who do ask their clients to be part of a solution they, more than anyone, know is important, the response is overwhelmingly positive.  It may not result in much money but it sure creates buckets of pride.  Clients are now part of their own solutions and that means almost as much as what they are already receiving from the nonprofit.

Sometimes, of course, the sense that we “keep going back to the well,” is accurate.  A nonprofit finds one or several “angels” and doesn’t look any further for supporters.  The usual suspects become the only prospects, and this does not bode well for the future.  Attitudes must be changed so that the door is opened and more people are invited to the table.

Organizations with successful fundraising programs know that fundraising is a partnership.  People who give do so because they value what you do and want to help ensure that the work continues.  Consider the synonyms for partner:  colleague, companion, cohort, equal.  If you think about your donors in this way, you will approach them in a different way—not so much with your hands held up but with your arms outstretched.

Change from asking them to do something for you to embracing them and inviting them to do something with you.   It’s an attitude adjust that will change your world—and your outlook on what fundraising really, truly is.


Janet Levine works with nonprofits and educational organizations helping them to increase their fundraising capacity.  Changing attitudes is a big part of her work.  Learn more at



About janetlevineconsulting

For over 20 years, Janet Levine has worked for and with nonprofit and educational organizations, helping to grow their advancement programs. Her consulting company, Janet Levine Consulting, serves a wide range of organizations from small, all-volunteer agencies to major national organizations. She regularly teaches courses in non-profit management, fundraising and grant development, both face-to-face and online at In addition to her nonprofit work, Janet brings years of experience as a business and sales manager in the for-profit sector. She has an MBA from the Graziadio School of Business at Pepperdine University.
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